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By Susan Friedmann Cell phones have changed our world. With few exceptions, we can now talk to anyone we like whenever wed like. The staccato symphony of ring tones accompanies us through our days: from the morning commute to the crowded restaurant at lunchtime, during meetings and even during the quick stop at the grocery store when the day is done. Were always connected, always reachable. Its a marvel. Its a marvel that can destroy your tradeshow performance. Consider the following: Youre at a tradeshow. An attractive exhibit catches your eye. The product on display is exactly what youve been searching for. When you approach the booth, a staffer looks up and with a gesture indicates that you should wait, just one minute, while he finishes his call. When hes done talking to the important people, the message seems to be, hell be happy to talk to you. How long are you going to wait? After all, youve only a limited amount of time at the show, and there are dozens of other booths on your must-see list. When you discover that the display just a little further down the aisle also appears to feature a product that could fill your needs, chances are thats all the impetus youll need to move along. Theres no sense waiting for the staffer to finish his call, not when there are other people who are more than ready to talk to you right now. Lets flip the scenario around. Youre on the other side of the aisle when your cell phone rings. Do you take the call? I can hear you now. But thats different! My call is important! Guess what? The salesman in the first example thought his call was important too. And it was — to him. It was more important than you were, at least. Talking on your cell phone tells tradeshow attendees three things: 1. Your teams focus is NOT on the tradeshow. 2. Your attendee is not the most important person in the room — that honor belongs to whoever has your cell phone number. 3. The attendees business is not valuable to your company. Add to this the very real possibility that attendees are listening to at least one side of your staffers cell phone conversations. What might they be hearing? Confidential business details, including customer names, order size and more. What great info for your competitors to have. Intimate, personal conversations. Nothings more off putting than TMI (too much information)! Humor or observations that may be considered offensive. What a PR nightmare! How does this impact your marketing message? How does cell phone use by your staffers affect how that message is received by the show attendees? (For a free copy of 10 Common Mistakes Exhibitors Make, e-mail: article4@thetradeshowcoach.com) Its entirely possible that cell phone use by your staff will eliminate the clear communication of your marketing message. Sad but true: thats the best you can hope for. Worse, and far more likely, attendees are getting different messages from your company, including: Were too busy for you. Were too important for you. We dont care about you. Youre not worth our time. You dont deserve our attention. Is that the message you want to send? Emphatically NO! Thats why you need a cell phone policy. This policy will obviously vary by company, but should include the following: Cell phones must be shut off when youre on the floor. Give staffers regular breaks so they can check messages and make calls, away from the exhibit. Staffers who have personal reasons to be in constant contact (i.e. small children, ailing parents, etc.) should be encouraged to program their phones to signal high priority calls with a distinctive ring or vibration pattern. That way, staffers can only answer emergency calls and let voice mail pick up the rest. This offers your team the security of being constantly connected while still keeping the focus on the tradeshow attendees. Expect some resistance when first introducing this policy. Cell phones have become such a part of our lives that many people feel naked without them. Explain the benefits and reasoning of the policy. Minimize tension by being flexible, providing ample opportunity for staffers to check in, and leading by example. You cant tell your people to turn off their phones and then spend the day chatting on yours! Written by Susan A. Friedmann, CSP, The Tradeshow Coach, Lake Placid, NY, internationally recognized expert working with companies to increase their profitability at tradeshows. Author: Meeting & Event Planning for Dummies, and Riches in Niches: How to Make it BIG in a small Market (May 2007). http://www.thetradeshowcoach.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Susan_Friedmann http://EzineArticles.com/?Are-You-Celling-Yourself-Short?&id=469224 no credit check loans australia home loan with bad credit personal loans for college students no credit check homes in atascocita texas

By Rion Williams Men, do you want a woman you just can’t get enough of and look forward to seeing (without losing your power and natural authority in the relationship) or do you want a woman who either; a; owns you b; you just want to bang and then are tired of right afterwards and she feels used You see, we as men just don’t know. We haven’t found any women that we just want to keep seeing again or who we can trust to devote our heart to. If we show too much interest, the women in our reality just run the other direction or won’t open up to us. This keeps us further closed in our shell while trying to figure out the behavior of our women. As men, we either think she’s too sexy and hot and just want to ‘bang her’ and be over with it while not being interested in anything else about her or any ‘lasting’ attribute. OR, we ‘think’ she’s a ‘great catch’ but in reality end up finding she takes over the marriage and relationship while you ending up sleeping on the couch in your own house. What we don’t realize is that men can actually feel the same things women ideally do while getting the best of everything. We just don’t find it within the women in our cultural reality. Yet this is the natural way of things and how it’s always been up until recently. Social influence is the ONLY thing that said housewives weren’t happy (for their own economic benefit) and soon these women started to believe it. Can man AND women find a perfect balancing ground? Can we as men have the best of everything while striving to be the best that we can be in our careers with a woman who is HAPPY AND supports us while putting the family first? Can we actually HAVE sex, power, minimal nagging and a lasting relationship with a woman who knows her role like you are doing your role? If the prada’s and pricktease’s don’t fit the category, what is it then? It’s the natural alpha women. It’s your chance to be caught up in love, romance, passion and devotion without ever giving up your own relational authority in the relationship. Why? Because it’s the natural relational dynamic and she knows her role unlike the prada’s and pricktease’s. This option passed away a generation ago. Our grandmother’s were the last remaining natural alpha women. Today, this is just not possible with the prickteases or prada’s, but this is the way it’s been throughout history. Your wife was more emotional and supportive yet you grew in devotion to her as she was the perfect wife and mother and you stuck together through the rough times. You took care of her and she took care of you and the kids. Men could just be themselves without getting criticized for every little thing and why? Because the women were being themselves too. Sure, many men took it for granted most of the time but that is the lasting beauty of women and after all that we’ve gone through I think millions of men would appreciate the power of a natural alpha woman if they were even aware they still existed today. They empower a man to be the best he can be without cutting him down or nagging. They can work through issues. Men would appreciate the things she does without word because she knew her biological role. She doesn’t want to take over the marriage and be the man. She respects her husband and allows him to grow and provide for the family without challenging him. And after what countless millions of men have been through, this simple, natural and traditional character of a woman would seem like a behavioral miracle. How could he even deserve such a perfect woman after putting up with the behavior and psychological abuse of prickteases, prada’s and his ex-wife? A few men know what the secret is and they’re keeping it a secret, but they had to step ‘outside the box’ to realize it. Unfortunately, independent women will put down natural women because they don’t realize the more important attributes these women have that they’re missing themselves. They’ll view it as ‘repression’ when it isn’t at all; it’s just representing the lack of necessity to take over the world and throw the dynamics off ending in divorce. Welcome back to nature my friend. It’s what our grandmother’s were like. It’s the way it was meant to be biblically and historically. The strength of a natural woman to hold a family together, not to be a homewrecker. Now we have gender-role swapping that is driven by our social culture. Even GQ is slowly adapting towards ‘gay’ men as role models if you look at it; sad but true. It’s up to you to know the truth and realize the understated and overlooked attributes of a natural alpha woman. When you find that woman I recommend that you love her forever because she will love you forever without wanting to steal your farm or take over the world. It will be ok to as a man to even be passionately in love without her leaving you. Why? Because she is natural; closest to her roots and not corrupted with social distortion and opportunistic programming. Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and social dynamics. Learn how to be an alpha male who is comfortable in his own skin and succeeds with women and dating. Join the newsletter and get instant access to actually see the ’secret of women’ for yourself @ http://www.secretofwomen.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Rion_Williams http://EzineArticles.com/?The-Downside-of-Our-Female-Models-and-Behavior-Today&id=518691 personal loan bad credit credit union jacksonville car company loan online quick cash loans direct loan service online

By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Nathan_Wei] Nathan Wei Psoriatic arthritis is a distinct disease, different from rheumatoid arthritis and ankylosing spondylitis- another common type of arthritis- but sharing similar features to each. The disability and functional impairment in psoriatic arthritis can be as severe as that occurring from rheumatoid arthritis. Typically, a patient will have had psoriasis for a number of years before the arthritis develops. A small proportion of patient will develop the arthritis concurrently with the skin disease and an even smaller percentage will develop the skin disease after the joint disease. Psoriatic arthritis may affect most joints in an oligoarticular pattern, meaning a few scattered joints are affected and the joint inflammation does not have the symmetrical pattern seen in rheumatoid arthritis. Enthesitis, which is inflammation of the tendons that attach to bone, is common in psoriatic arthritis. Sausage digits swelling of the fingers and toes so that they look like little sausages is frequent. Nail changes are also common. These include “pitting” and separation of the nail from the nailbed. Some patients will develop carpal tunnel syndrome because of inflammation in the wrist. Inflammation of the eyes is a serious complication, as is involvement of the aortic valve of the heart. Joint deformity is frequent and affects 40% of patients with the disease. Psoriatic arthritis has a significant impact on quality of life. The skin disease is a tremendous burden and often leads to depression. The inflammatory process that causes both the skin disease as well as the joint disease is driven by elevated levels of a substance called tumor necrosis factor, or TNF. A patient with psoriasis who complains of joint pain, swelling, morning stiffness, and fatigue should raise a high level of suspicion for the diagnosis of psoriatic arthritis. Laboratory testing will show evidence of inflammation and imaging procedures such as magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) can help confirm the diagnosis. Treatments that improve the skin disease do not necessarily improve joint symptoms and vice versa. Treatment goals include symptomatic relief and control of disease progression. Non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs are helpful for relieving some symptoms. However the majority of patients with psoriatic arthritis will require a combination of methotrexate and anti-TNF biologic therapy. Anti-TNF therapies have provided a significant advance in the treatment of both the skin as well the joint disease in patients with psoriatic arthritis. Dr. Wei (pronounced way) is a board-certified rheumatologist and Clinical Director of the nationally respected Arthritis and Osteoporosis Center of Maryland. He is a Clinical Assistant Professor of Medicine at the University of Maryland School of Medicine and has served as a consultant to the Arthritis Branch of the National Institutes of Health. He is a Fellow of the American College of Rheumatology and the American College of Physicians. For more information on arthritis and related conditions, go to: [http://www.arthritis-treatment-and-relief.com/types-of-arthritis.html] Types of Arthritis Article Source: [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Nathan_Wei ] http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Nathan_Wei [http://ezinearticles.com/?My-Dermatologist-Told-Me-to-See-An-Arthritis-Doctor...-I-Have-Psoriasis-and-My-Joints-Hurt&id=84164 ] http://EzineArticles.com/?My-Dermatologist-Told-Me-to-See-An-Arthritis-Doctor…-I-Have-Psoriasis-and-My-Joints-Hurt&id=84164 high risk personal loan quick student loan no credit check houses los angeles can a real estate agent receive commission on a personal fha loan

By Michael P Brown 1.) Make them an offer they can’t refuse: Give away a Free gift. Like a free ebook. A free consultation. A free gift certificate. A free dinner. A free resource. Free information that is valuable. In fact, information is one of the most valuable things you can give to someone for Free. And the best part about giving away free information is that it usually doesn’t cost you anything to give it away. Bottom line is this. If you’re going to make an offer they can’t refuse then make sure its worth it. Make sure its something your target customer wants. If it’s something they want then you will likely be turning another window shopper into a paying customer. 2.) Make your offer for a limited time: A limited time offer creates a sense of urgency in your targeted customer. You want to make them feel like they have to get it now, or they won’t get it later. It also makes your offer seem more important. Also, the more specific you are about exactly when the offer ends - the greater sense of urgency you create in your target customer. Examples: Limited time offer: If you call within the next 48 hours you will get (product name) at 50% off. or The next 50 calls will receive a brand new Rolex watch. Ok maybe not a Rolex, but a Timex. But you get the idea. or Click here now this offer expires at midnight November 22, 2003. (specific time) 3.) Have a call to action: Tell your prospective targeted customer exactly what to do next. Be directive. Don’t dilly-dally around. Just tell them what to do next. Be careful with this. It is an art. You don’t want to sound demanding like a dictator. There is a way to say it and write it so it almost sounds like a request, but it’s actually a direction. Examples: Call now. (Some people use explanation points here, I don’t! It feels too demanding and could turn your prospective targeted client off and make them feel like you are giving them orders! A period is nice and neutral, but you’re still giving direction.) Click here now to place your order. (Nice to throw a “you” or “your” in there, it is more reader involved and speaks directly to your perspective targeted customer) Sign up today. ( ahh, this is ok, but “now” is more immediate then “today.” There are 24 hours in a day, but now is now, and forces your targeted customer to make a decision now, and not sometimes today - maybe later on - maybe never) 4.) Give a concrete “real” Guarantee: The only Guarantee that is “real” is to offer to give your customer back his money if he or she is not satisfied. Any other kind of guarantee is just meaningless words to your customer. If you say we guarantee customer satisfaction and quality service, but don’t back it up with a money back guarantee, then you are just talking the talk. If you really want to turn window shoppers into paying customers, then walk the walk, and give a money back guarantee. Studies have shown that the better the guarantee, the less likely the product will be returned. If you feel you can’t give a “real” guarantee then ask yourself why you can’t. Do you doubt your own product? If you really believe in your product, then back that belief up with some teeth. Example: A limited guarantee: Our No-Hassle 30-day Guarantee Try it out for 30 days, if you are not completely satisfied - send it back - and we will fully refund your money. No questions asked. (I don’t know what’s being sold here, but with a guarantee like that; I’m ready to buy it now.) A Lifetime Guarantee: Our lifetime Guarantee If you’re not satisfied - for any reason - simply return the item and we will fully refund your money on the spot or replace it. No questions asked - no hassles. It’s important to note here that a guarantee takes all the risk out of it for your customer. Your customer is thinking, I could lose my money. But, if you can make your customer feel like he or she has nothing to lose, then you will be turning window shopper into a paying customer. 5.) Hook your prospective customer with a compelling headline. A good headline is packed with your #1 or #2 benefit. And it is compelling - addressing a need or want of your prospective customer. The more specific the headline - the better it will pull. Many copywriters and Marketers spend 80-90% of their time working on the headline. Why? Because they know their customers will not even see what they have to offer if they are not drawn in first from a compelling headline. Examples: Boost Your Profits and Shrink Your Expenses 7 Ways to Make Money without Working How to Get More Money and Work Less. and my favorite is this one 5 Ways to Turn Window-Shoppers into Paying Customers. 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By J Bocobo The back of the neck, shoulders, low back, hip(s), knees, ankles and heels. What do they have in common? They are the places on our bodies that most often have aches or pains. A common source of pain can be muscle tightness brought on by overuse, or in some cases under use. Things like driving, working at a computer, standing in line, sleeping on your side or any number of everyday activities can create the conditions for tight muscles. The affected areas typically develop knots that can alter a muscles optimal length and disrupt how you normally move. When this happens, everyday movements can become labored and painful. The knots must be released so that muscles can relax and return to their normal functioning length. One possible answer to your prayers could be a simple foam roller. This unassuming device is used to perform a flexibility technique called self-myofascial release or foam rolling. Simply put, you use it to relax tight muscles and feel better. Self-myofascial release works by applying pressure to muscles with a foam roller. A mechanism in your muscles senses the pressure. Your body then sends a signal back to the knotted muscle telling it to relax. Some muscles will relax immediately, while others will need repeated treatment. Bear in mind that the tenderness experienced when putting pressure on knotted muscles can be mild to severe. Do not let this be a deterrent to potentially liberating yourself from learn to live with it pain. If you are persistent and consistent you will begin to see results. Something else to consider once youve relaxed knotted muscles are the things you do throughout your day that might have caused your pain in the first place. Unless you change those movement patterns, muscle pain will continue to harass you. The easiest thing you can do is give yourself frequent breaks from things like working at a computer, carrying a bag/backpack a certain way, or doing a particular exercise for weeks or months on end. Instructions for foam rolling are as follows: Roll slowly (1 per second) over muscles. Do not roll on joints. If you find a tender area or knot hold for 20-30 seconds or until tenderness subsides by 50%, then move on. Take deep breaths while holding on a knot and let yourself relax. If the knot is too intense move on and come back to it later. Self-myofascial release may be performed daily. Use of this technique is not recommended for diabetic individuals who have lost the protective sensation in the lower limbs. It is also not suggested for anyone during pregnancy or who has hypertension, coronary heart disease, intermittent claudication/peripheral arterial disease, and osteoporosis. Specific foam roll movements can be viewed on the fuel page at performance4life.com. If you enjoyed this article please share it with a friend. John Bocobo is a fitness professional and co-founder of Performance 4 Life. He specializes in corrective exercise and can be contacted at www.performance4life.com. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=J_Bocobo http://EzineArticles.com/?Relieve-Pain-With-Foam&id=406921 multiple payday loan accredited bad credit personal loans international loan agencies with personal loans for caribbean people guaranteed unsecured personal loans

By Wayne Messick The number one mistake we all make is not fine-tuning our niche tightly enough. It’s possible that if there are 100 of your ideal target prospects in your normal marketing area - you will be able to make achieve your goals for a lifetime of endless new business. By now I hope you have invested time and energy considering precisely what your ideal clients look like. Before you spend another minute marketing yourself - determine exactly who you want to do business with. Will Rogers is quoted as saying that, “it doesn’t matter that you are making good time, when you are heading in the wrong direction” - so check your map (picture of your ideal client type) before you go speeding off toward oblivion. I can not over emphasis the importance of that process. Nor can I over emphasize the importance of not trying to see beyond who they are, to how much money you can make from them. The money will take care of itself if you have faith in the process and belief in yourself and the value you bring to the equation. After we have tightly identified our target audience we still face a huge marketing challenge. How can we quickly articulate the value we offer these targeted folks when we find ourselves in front of one? If we can not describe our benefit in specific, tangible, and results oriented fashion - we won’t be around long enough to prove our uniqueness and value. What we need is an “elevator” speech - a benefit statement we can blurt out in 15 seconds that will cause them to pause. When they pause we have their attention, which is all we want at this point, so we can take whatever is the next logical step in the process for us. Your elevator speech can be your most powerful weapon, if you’ve done your homework - created the clear identity of your target audience so your statement of benefits will resonate with the people who are important to you! Now your elevator speech will effectively get the attention of the people who are important to you, people you are uniquely positioned to serve. Perhaps more importantly it will just a clearly and quickly disqualifies everyone else. In fact that is the key of an effective elevator speech. You want to disqualify everyone that does not fit your picture of your ideal client. No more wasted time with one-off clients, Every client leads you to the next and the next and the next, so it is critical that they all are taking you in the right direction. There are more than enough high probability prospects out there to keep you busy in your niche. Don’t waste time and everyone the others. The more efficient you get at disqualifying the wrong people, the better you will get at uncovering the right ones. Actually they will begin to identify themselves. And those people you meet that you disqualify, well some of them will become your greatest recruiters, going out of their way to tell the people they come across that you specialize in people like them and would it be ok if they gave you their name. I have never seen anyone who has narrowed their niche too much. If you live in a small town and there are only a handful of people who represent your niche - that will do it. Each one of them knows other people just like them who live 20, 50, or 100 miles away. And we all know the credibility that automatically attaches to us when we are a specialist from afar. And those people have more friends just like them. According to the Columbia Books Directory of State and Regional Associations and Professional Societies there are 7,500 local chapters of organizations whose members share common interests. After you have determined the true nature of the people you want to work with, check it out. You will find an association of them closer to you than you think. And the member just down the street nay hold the key to getting your message in front of them. Fine tuning your target audience has other marketing benefits as well. For instance you can fine tune the places where you want your marketing message to show up. For example a trade show appearance where each and every attendee is in your market. Everyone is a prospect and everyone knows you or they know somebody who knows you or they just might be standing beside somebody who knows you. I know coaches and other professional solution providers who focus 100% of their marketing efforts in this single way. They attend the annual association meeting of their target market. They “work the room” by being at the awards banquet, the breakout sessions, and they practically live in the exhibit hall during the event. At the end of the week they have all the new prospects they need for the next 12 months - people they had never met before, people who were not ready for their services when they met them at an earlier event, and people they have been given a personal prestige laden introduction to by one of their existing clients. By the way, how many new clients do you want in the next 12 months? How many prospects does it take to get them, if they are in your target niche and they understand your value proposition? When creating your elevator talk, your 15 second description of your value proposition, remember it is all about them - what’s in it for them? When you describe your offer speak their language, not yours! If you are like most emerging professionals I meet, you suffer from the inability to provide your prospects with a description of what you do that offers them tangible, understandable, and specific benefits. People will not pay money until they understand that what they are receiving is worth more than it costs, unless they are stupid. And you will not be able to make a living selling your services to stupid people. It is 100% your responsibility to describe your value, answer their “what’s in it for me?” questions, whether stated or implied. To help you do that I offer a formula that has worked for many people like you and me for years. I did not come up with it and neither did anyone who claims to have done so. I first heard it on a very old record by Earl Nightingale - one he created in the ’50s, and he gave credit to someone before him. Use this formula to create as many specific elevator speeches as you need, in order to address the wants and desires of your niche and its subsidiaries. It goes like this. “You know what it’s like when _____________?” “Well, that’s what I do.” For example if your target is beauty shop owners, helping them through their many challenges - and you have just me such a person, perhaps at an exhibit of salon equipment at their annual meeting. You might say, “You know what it’s like when you find you are paying more for shampoo than it costs your customers at the mall?” Well, that’s what I do. I help salon owners locate sources of products at below wholesale, turning a net cost into a profit center.” The salon owner is interested in that! No matter what you do and who you do it for, “You know what it’s like when _____________?” “Well, that’s what I do.” Will get their attention. You can see how this formula can be used for whatever challenge your target audience has. If you have defined your target audience and spent the time to understand their challenges. Your homework, create elevator speeches - 45 words or less, for every situation you are likely to come up against, and integrate them into your persona. When you know them so well that your spouse can wake you up in the middle of the night from a sound sleep, and ask you - “What do you do?” and you answer them before you open your eyes, you’re ready for prime time! Wayne Messick is sharing the secrets of his success, well over two decades helping business owners position themselves for the future. 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By Kamau Austin If you think long-distance events such as marathons and ultra marathons are the only way to lose weight, you are mistaken. In fact, training for shorter events such as a 5K, equal to 3.1 miles, can actually be quite effective for weight loss. Training for these types of events forces you to focus on high intensity speed work, which can have a tremendously positive effect on your metabolism. This article will discuss how training for 5K races can have an impact on weight loss in a number of ways. We will discuss how speed training can help you not only improve your time but also lose weight, how you can try different types of terrain to promote weight loss and how even planning your competition schedule can have an impact on your weight loss progress. This type of training can help you lose weight but, as with any fitness or weight loss program, you should consult your doctor before embarking on this type of exercise regime. Additionally, you should consult a doctor before you decide to start taking any supplements to aid your weight loss efforts. Lose Weight While You Improve Your Speed One of the primary reasons shorter distance events such as 5K races are so effective for weight loss is the amount of speed work often required when training for these events. Marathon training involves starting out with a relatively low amount of mileage and building on that amount each week. However, a race of only 3.1 miles does not require this type of building period. Instead, individuals training for this type of event often focus on interval training to help them improve their overall times. While marathon training promotes weight loss by necessitating increasing amounts of mileage, 5K training focuses on increasing the intensity of workouts and this is an extremely effective way to lose weight. These high intensity workouts are extremely taxing on the muscles and force your body to work harder. When this happens, you enjoy a metabolic boost that can be very beneficial in your weight loss endeavor. Interval training involves bursts of sprinting interspersed with recovery running at a moderate pace. An example of an effective interval workout may include a five-minute warm up where you are running at a comfortable pace, followed by intervals of sprinting and jogging. If you are new to interval training, you might start out by following your five-minute warm up with one minute of sprinting and two minutes of recovery running. You can repeat this pattern of one-minute sprints, followed by two-minute jogs, several times before cooling down with five minutes of easy running. As you become stronger, you may wish to reverse the pattern by sprinting for two minutes and jogging for one and repeating this pattern several times. You can also challenge yourself by increasing your speed during the sprints. One way to do this is to do your interval workouts on a track. You can practice by sprinting one quarter mile, which is equal to one lap of the track, then jogging a half of a lap to recover. During this time, you can use a stopwatch to monitor your progress and can strive to improve your quarter mile time during the sprint phases. As your speed improves, you will be working at a higher intensity. This increased intensity will help you lose weight. Challenge Yourself with Different Terrains Another way to help yourself lose weight while training for 5K races is to incorporate hill training into your workouts. Many 5K courses have at least a few hills during the course of the race. Training on hills will not only help to ensure you are adequately prepared for the race but will also be very beneficial in your effort to lose weight. Running on hills is significantly more difficult than running on flat ground. Additionally, hill running challenges the muscles in a different way. By challenging your muscles in this way, you will be helping to promote weight loss because your muscles will not become accustomed to a typical routine. When your muscles become accustomed to your workout, they become more efficient and, therefore, burn fewer calories. Structuring a Competition Schedule to Facilitate Weight Loss If you are racing in 5K races to lose weight, you may want to carefully consider the number of races you plan to compete in as well as the timing of these races. This is important because if you are competing regularly, you may not be able to enjoy as much weight loss success as you would if you incorporated fewer races into your training schedule and spread these races out by more than a few weeks. For example, if you plan to compete in a 5K race every other weekend during the summer, you may not be giving yourself enough time to improve from one race to the next. Speed work is very taxing, and if you only have a week or two between races, you are not likely to do many speed workouts in between because you do not want your muscles to be overly fatigued for the race day. Additionally, you will also not likely be able to enjoy as much weight loss success, because you will be focusing more on maintaining your fitness level rather than on improving your fitness level. By spreading the races out further and only competing in one race every 4-6 weeks, you will have more time between each event to focus on speed training. This speed training will help you improve your overall time and also lose additional weight because your muscles will be challenged more. Focus Your Diet on Boosting Your Metabolism Exercise is not the only way to bolster your metabolism. You can also utilize your diet to increase your metabolism. 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By Eric Patterson When it comes to planning a wedding, it seems as if the decisions will never end. If you are currently planning your own wedding, you may be all too familiar with this. Decisions need to be made on the wedding venue, wedding quests, food, drinks, and entertainment. While all of those decisions are important is there one that may stand above the rest. That decision is your wedding cake design. When searching for a wedding cake designer in the Orange County area, you are likely to come across a large number of designers. Many of those designers will offer their own unique services. In fact, you may find a designer who is willing to help you have to make fewer decisions. This involves them choosing your wedding cake design. While it may be nice not to have to sample numerous pieces of wedding cakes or look at endless pictures, there are a number of benefits to choosing your own wedding cake design. Perhaps, the greatest benefit of choosing your own Orange County wedding cake design is that you will end up with the cake that you wanted. Although they may mean to offer you assistance, it is extremely difficult for an Orange County wedding cake decorator to know exactly what you want. To make the most out of your wedding and your cake, you are urged to schedule at least one consultation meeting with the decorator of your choice. Consultation meetings with a wedding cake designer are similar to beauty consultations or even consultations with lawyers. You will want to lay out what you are looking for and what you expect to receive. This should also be the time where you request to see samples of their work. Some cake decorators will show you pictures of previous wedding cakes that they have designed. Others will allow you to taste test a number of cakes. Some Orange County wedding cake decorators offer both of these services. One of the most common questions asked by couples is what if they dont like the Orange County wedding cake designs that are available. The answer is simple. Ask the cake decorator you are meeting if they are able to create custom-made cakes. A custom-made cake will allow you to obtain the Orange County wedding cake design that you were looking for. While custom ordered cakes are nice, you need to make sure that the cake designer you are working with knows exactly what you are looking for. During, before, or after the consultation appointment, you are urged to request a sketch of your custom designed cake. Whether you make this sketch or yourself or the cake decorator does, it may help to ensure that you get exactly the same Orange County wedding cake design that you were looking for. You may have to suggest that a sample sketch be made, but most cake designers would be more than happy to fulfill your request. By keeping the above mentioned points in mind, you are sure to find the wedding cake designer and cake design of your dreams. The wedding cake of your dreams can be obtainable, regardless of whether you select a pre-designed wedding cake or a custom-made one. Eric Patterson is a writer for Consultants Galore where you can find expert information regarding Orange County wedding cake design and other relevant resources. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Eric_Patterson http://EzineArticles.com/?The-Benefits-of-Choosing-Your-Own-Orange-County-Wedding-Cake-Design&id=284212 payday loan washington dc china loan money for government tax rebate loans unsecured uk payday loan mesa az

By David Ben-Ariel Gerald Flurry and the Philadephia Trumpet magazine (sponsored by the Philadelphia Church of God) offer an invaluable service to mankind with articles of insight and understanding based upon Bible prophecy. I respect the Philadephia Trumpet magazine’s contribution to God’s Work, even though they refuse to send it to me since I’m a former member of the PCG even though I’ve probably promoted it more than any of their evangelists. For the record, I’m an e-vangelist - not a televangelist - as the vast majority of my God-given Work is on the computer, sending emails and writing articles that appear all over the world of the internet . I give credit where credit is due, so help me God. However, everybody makes mistakes. We all have our blind spots and that’s perfectly understandable. Perhaps God permits some mistakes to observe how we respond to constructive criticism, whether we’re willing to grow, and to remind us to forever be diligent that what we teach is in accordance with His Word and that all truth belongs to God - not to any one man, group or organization (1 Corinthians 4:4-7), even if they think they’re rich and have need of nothing (Revelation 3:17). Are we set in our ways or do we maintain the childlike attitude, humility and willingness to change whenever necessary, as we experienced with our “first love” and initial conversion? What is inexcusable is when mistakes are clearly pointed out, beyond any shadow of a doubt, and we prefer traditional darkness rather than walk in our new light of understanding (John 3:19-21). Why remain a slave to idolatrous tradition when the plain truth can set you free? Gerald Flurry confused Mount Hermon with Mount Carmel on several occasions, so I wrote him and kindly pointed it out. He admitted in a letter to me that he had confused the two. (That’s when I was still an official member of the PCG and contact was possible, as far as they’re concerned). I knew Flurry had made a mistake since I was blessed to have lived next to both mountains: I lived next to Mount Carmel when I was a volunteer at Kibbutz Ramat Yohanan, and I lived next to the snow-covered Mt. Hermon at Kibbutz Dan during Operation Desert Storm, as I mention in From Toledo to Jerusalem. I used to cringe when I would read the Philadelphia Trumpet magazine and find references to “Palestine,” knowing that such a Satan-inspired term was used by the pagan Romans to spite the Jews after defeating and dispersing them, renaming the holy land after Israel’s anicent enemies, the Philistines. “Palestine” reflects the dark mind that would erase the name of our father Israel off the map (Psalms 83:4), as the wicked Iranian leader has recently called for, and the use of “Palestine” is totally unscriptural! We ought to call the Promised Land of Israel what God in His Bible has clearly named it: Israel - not Ishmael, not Philistine. How simple. All the more when you understand how politicized the usage of “Palestine” has become, aiding and abetting the sworn enemies of our Jewish brethren when we don’t refer to the Jewish homeland as Israel. I wrote Gerald Flurry, his son Stephen Flurry and others to protest using the accursed “Palestine” rather than Israel, and it appears to have registered with them for awhile, thank God, and then they reverted to their bad habit. I haven’t noticed lately whether or not they still use the wrong word for the Jewish homeland. I hope not. Regardless, it is Israel and God forbid it ever become “Palestine!” Gerald Flurry’s most recent article on Jerusalem repeats his false teaching that the “Palestinians” will conquer East Jerusalem, followed by European control of all Jerusalem. Here are a few excerpts:From the Editor: Jerusalem Is About to Be Cut in Half The Zechariah 14 Prophecy “For I [Jesus Christ] will gather all nations against Jerusalem to battle; and the city shall be taken, and the houses rifled, and the women ravished; and half of the city shall go forth into captivity, and the residue of the people shall not be cut off from the city” (Zechariah 14:2). Note the big overview Zechariah gives us. There are three phases to this crisis. Zechariah starts at the Second Coming of Christ, the third phase, and works his way backward chronologically.” Christ is not working backwards, but Flurry has got it backwards! Zechariah 14 clearly states international opposition against Jewish sovereignty over Jerusalem, leading to the European Union seizing the whole city - “THE CITY shall be taken” - and following that, undoubtedly trying to appease the Arabs, the European Union forcibly divides Jerusalem. Other prophecies reveal that Jerusalem will suffer under the EU jackboot for 3 1/2 years. When the “time of the Gentiles” is up, King Messiah will return from Heaven (in full view of all mankind) and liberate Jerusalem and fight against our enemies. This is the BIBLICAL ORDER OF JERUSALEM’S FALL, DIVISION AND LIBERATION. Continue with Flurry’s article:”The verse starts with Christ conquering the European and Asian powers who are gathered together for battle. Then there is a semicolon, which means all these events in verse 2 are linked and closely associated.” The verse doesn’t start with the European and Asian powers gathered for “Armageddon,” that comes later. It starts with international opposition to Jewish sovereignty over Jerusalem, led by fascist Europe under the evil influence of the bloody Roman Catholic Church that has its evil eye on Jerusalem. “The first semicolon introduces the second phase of this violent time. The city shall be taken, houses rifled and women ravished. This is when the king of the north (Europe) conquers the whole city of Jerusalem (also America and Britain), shortly after he conquers the king of the south (Daniel 11:40-41).” There are no semicolons in Hebrew. Europe will strike terror into the Muslim world with a swift victory against them, a lightning strike that will go to their head, and then Europe will brutally betray and seize all of Jerusalem, divide it, and occupy Jerusalem. The final revival of the Roman Empire will remain stationed in the Holy Land, headquarters Jerusalem, until the King of the Jews, the King of Israel, returns to reign, deposes Europe’s wannabe divine emperor (and his religious promoter) who have trespassed upon the Temple Mount and polluted the Temple. Yeshua will liberate His City, the City of the Great King, and administer world justice from the throne of King David. “The Palestinians will take half of Jerusalem. They say even now that a Palestinian state must include East Jerusalem, which already is comprised mostly of Palestinians, and the Temple Mount. They want Jerusalem, with the Temple Mount, as their capital. If they take the Temple Mount, you could see that act quickly provoking more war. The Temple Mount is holy to three great religions: Judaism, Islam and Christianity. It is the Jews’ holiest site. The Arabs consider it their second- or third-holiest site. Christians, especially Roman Catholics, put more emphasis on the whole city. (Remember the Crusades?)” The “Palestinians” are in no position whatsoever to take anything. Everything they have the Israelis have foolishly surrendered to them. It is because the Arabs demand East Jerusalem (actually they want all of Jerusalem) that Europe will seize Jerusalem and rip Israel’s heart in two, while keeping the Temple Mount (with its imminent Third Temple) for themselves. “The Palestinians could–and, I believe, will–conquer the Temple Mount and refuse access to anybody else. ” The Temple Mount is the third most holy spot for Muslims, following Mecca and Medina, since legend has it Mohammad ascended to Heaven from that sacred site, although the Koran does not mention Jerusalem even once, although it’s mentioned over 600 times in the Hebrew Bible. Satan knows the importance of Jerusalem even if some professing Christians and Jews have forgotten it, which is why Satan has stirred up the Nazi-Muslims to covet the Temple Mount and pollute it with their foreign objects that must soon be removed - either by an Act of God (earthquake) or responsible Israeli action - restoring the Temple Mount as the Temple Mount. Appropriately, the Temple Mount Faithful and the Temple Institute are educating folks in Israel and around the world, both Jews, Israelites and Gentiles, preparing for that glorious day. The Nazi-Muslim’s already occupy the Temple Mount! They’ve illegally denied the religious rights of Christians and Jews since 1967. That’s when Moshe Dayan (cursed in Jewish history for such a sin that stinks to High Heaven) despised God and Judaism’s holiest site - the Temple Mount - and surrendered it to the shocked Muslim authorities after it had been miraculously liberated during the Six Day War. I was unjustly deported from Israel for highlighting the plight of the Temple Mount under Nazi-Muslim occupation - in various articles read throughout Israel (and since throughout the world). The Israeli authorities shamefully look the other way daily as the Muslims flout Israeli law that supposedly guarantees “freedom of access” to religious sites. Even though the British “ordained” Chief Rabbinate forbids those who listen to them (they have no legal authority regarding the Temple Mount) from entering the Temple Mount compound, more educated and faithful Jews know there are “permitted places” they can make holy pilgrimage to without sinning. The Temple Institute and others arrange such holy tours for those Jews who want to properly visit the Temple Mount according to halacha (Jewish law). Why should anybody listen to the religious prostitutes of the Chief Rabbinate, paid for and in service to the state, especially when Chief Rabbi Yonah Metzger just invited the Dalai Lama to help him create a UN of religions in Jerusalem? What an invitation for disaster! What spiritual blindness or colloboration with the dark forces that are intent on wresting Jerusalem from the Jews. Thankfully, God commands Israel to build His Santuary, a “House of Prayer for All Peoples,” based upon His Word and Will that will soon be fulfilled. a David Ben-Ariel is a Christian-Zionist writer in Ohio and author of Beyond Babylon: Europe’s Rise and Fall. With a focus on the Middle East and Jerusalem, his analytical articles help others improve their understanding of that troubled region. Check out Beyond Babylon. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=David_Ben-Ariel http://EzineArticles.com/?Jerusalems-Fall,-Division-and-Liberation&id=161232 las vegas payday loans how can i get a construction loan with bad credit cash advance 1 hour unsecure installment loans

By Cassandra Mack One of the hardest lessons that youll ever have to learn is not Chemistry, Calculus or even the laws of Physics. It has nothing to do with history, English Literature or understanding why Maya Angelous caged bird sings. Its how to recognize and get out of an abusive relationship. Perhaps he only hits you when hes angry. Maybe he doesnt hit you at all. Instead he calls you names, tells you that youre nothing without him and tries to control every move you make. Or maybe he doesnt do any of these things but theres a little voice inside your head telling you that YOURE TREADING ON DEADLY GROUND. You cant quite put your finger on it. Youre not entirely sure how to explain it. But you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that theres something horribly wrong going on. Youre too afraid to ask for help, but too afraid not to. Paralyzed by fear and blinded by love you dont know which way to turn or how to set yourself free.If this is happening to you, then you are in an abusive relationship. Regardless of what he tells you or what you may think, you dont have to take it. And believe it or not, you are not alone. Studies show that one out of five women have experience violence or emotional intimidation in their relationships. Dating violence is very serious, because many of these relationships end in hospitalizations and some even end in death. And just like you, they all thought it wouldnt happen to them. This is why it is critical that you seek help and get out if you are in an abusive relationship. The longer you stay the worse your situation will get. I know its hard to imagine being without him because you love him and you really want to believe that things will get better. But they wont unless you leave. Laurie age 19 says, The first time my boyfriend hit me, I couldnt believe it. He saw me kiss one of my male friends on the cheek and totally flipped out. He waited until we were alone, dragged me behind the building and beat me down to the ground. He told me that it was my fault because I shouldnt be kissing on other guys when I already have a boyfriend. Could you believe that I stayed with him for two more years after that? Michelle age 17 says, Rick was the most popular guy in school. I couldnt believe he wanted to go out with me. He could have any girl he wanted and he chose me. He had a nice car, bought me jewelry and made me feel like I was special. But three months into the relationship things changed. He would call me a bitch or a whore if I even looked at another guy. He told me if I ever left him he would kill me. I didnt believe him until he took out a gun and pulled the trigger. Luckily it wasnt loaded. Brenda age 21 says, Ive been with Miguel since I was 16. We use to play fight but then it would turn serious. He would choke me and pull my hair. He told me that no one else wanted me because I was fat. I was carrying his baby thats why I was fat. But he didnt care. sometimes if he got real angry he hit me in my stomach. He blames me for everything. Half the time I didnt know what was wrong. If he went out all night with his friends I was supposed to sit by the phone and wait. But if I wanted to hang out with my friends Miguel would have a fit. Even though he hit me it was the name-calling that hurt me the most. I can take a punch, but I dont like him calling me a bitch. If you or someone you know is in a situation like Laurie, Michelle, or Brenda then you have got to get help and get out . Dating violence happens everywhere and with all kinds of people. Violence is not a normal part of dating. It is not healthy. Hitting and jealousy are not signs of love they are signs of control. Every violent relationship has the potential of ending in murder. Even if the guy doesnt mean to kill his girlfriend it can happen. Are you willing to take that chance? What Is Relationship Abuse? Relationship abuse occurs when you are threatened, coerced, intimidated, insulted or assaulted by the person you are in a relationship with. Relationship abuse is not the same as having an argument. In an abusive relationship one person is afraid of, or intimidated by the other. Relationship abuse does not just happen one time, it is something that happens over and over again. There are three kinds of relationship abuse: emotional, physical, and sexual. Emotional Abuse Emotional abuse can be difficult to detect because its not as obvious as physical or sexual abuse but it is damaging none the less. Emotional abuse includes name calling, put downs, being told that you are worthless or ugly, being unfavorably compared to other females, being humiliated, embarrassed, threatened, and ordered around. Physical Abuse Physical abuse is hitting, pushing, slapping, kicking, and pulling your hair, punching, choking, throwing things at you or pulling weapons out on you. Physical abuse usually becomes more violent as the relationship progresses. The longer you stay the worse the beatings get. Physical abuse is used to scare you, restrain you and control you. Hitting is not an act of love. It is an act of violence. Sexual Abuse Sexual abuse occurs when you are forced, intimidated, manipulated or coerced into participating in a sexual act which can include intercourse, oral sex, fondling or any other type of sexual act. Perhaps he didnt force you to have sex but he coerced , intimidated or manipulated you into having sex. Thats still sexual abuse and it is not your fault. Maybe he threatened to leave you or spread rumors about you if you didnt have sex with him. If he did then you were coerced. And you dont have to take it. What Are Warning Signs That Will Tell You If Your Boyfriend Has The Potential To Be An Abuser? The reason so many young women get trapped in abusive relationships is because they dont know what the early warning signs are. Answer these questions and find out if your boyfriend has the potential to be an abuser. Is your boyfriend jealous and possessive? Does he try to tell you who to talk to and who you should be friends with? Does he become angry and agitated the moment you talk to another guy? Does he constantly accuse you of flirting with other guys or cheating on him? Does he tell you what to wear? Has he ever called you out of your name? Does he try to make you feel guilty if you cannot see him? Does he ask you your whereabouts whenever hes unable to reach you? Does he try to isolate you from your friends and family? Does he have a violent temper? Have you ever seen him call another female out of her name? Do you find yourself apologizing to your friends for your boyfriends remarks or behaviors? Does he threaten to leave you if you dont do what he wants? Does he insist on seeing you during all of your free time? Do you feel you have to ask him permission before you make a decision? Does he spy on you or call you constantly to see what you are doing? If you answered yes to any of these questions then your boyfriend has the potential to be an abuser. Pay attention to the warning signs and listen to your intuition. If you think that you may be in danger then leave before its too late. Talk your feelings through with someone you trust and listen to what your intuition is telling you to do. Dont make excuses and dont try to talk yourself out of your feelings. Are You In An Abusive Relationship? Many young women do not realize that their relationship is abusive because their boyfriends behave like Dr. Jeckle and Mr. Hyde. One day he is loving and attentive the next day he is violent and enraged. Abusive relationships become more violent over time. Usually an abuser doesnt start hitting his girlfriend until he feels comfortable in the relationship or she tries to leave him. For your own safety and well-being you need to know if your relationship is abusive. You may have even noticed that there is a predictable pattern to your relationship. Your boyfriends moods and behavior may go back and forth in a cycle. This is known as the cycle of violence. Ill explain this cycle as we go along. To figure out if you are in an abusive relationship ask yourself these questions. Are you afraid of, or intimidated by your boyfriend? Have you ever lied to your friends and family to cover up your boyfriends behavior? Are you afraid to make new friends, because you dont want to upset your boyfriend? Has your boyfriend ever pressured you to do something that made you feel dirty or uncomfortable? Has your boyfriend ever put you down, ridiculed you or hurt you in any way? Does he slap, shove, kick, shake, pull your hair or throw things at you? Has he ever threatened you? Has he ever pulled a weapon out on you? Do you not see friends and family because of his jealousy? Do you feel like you have to walk on eggshells in order to keep him happy? Have you been secretive or afraid to tell others about your boyfriend? Does he drink, use drugs then becomes violent? Does he follow you or constantly make you check in with him? Has he ever threatened to hurt you, someone you love, or himself if you leave him? If you answered yes to any of these questions then you are in an abusive relationship. You may think its no big deal. But it is, because it will only get worse. The reason it is so difficult to end an abusive relationship is because an abuser is not always behaving abusively. This is the cycle of violence that I referred to earlier. Barrie Levy author of, In Love and In Danger: A Teens Guide to Breaking Free of Abusive Relationships, says that every abusive relationship goes through a three-tier cycle. Stage 1. The Tension Building Stage This is the stage where the tension begins to build. You boyfriend becomes more irritable, agitated and explosive. He blows up over little things, lashes out and is extremely critical of you. You feel like you have to walk on eggshells or stay out of his way in order to keep him calm. The tension is so thick you can cut it with a knife. Stage 2. The Explosion Stage This is the stage where your boyfriend strikes out either physically or verbally. He calls you names, throws things at you or assaults you. The longer you stay together the worse the explosions become. Perhaps this time it was a shove or a slap, maybe next time it will be a punch, a kick, or a visit to the emergency room. Stage 3. Honeymoon Stage This is the stage where he tells you how sorry he is and swears that it will never happen again. This is what keeps the two of you together. He promises to control his temper. You promise not to upset him. He buys you flowers and candy or writes you passionate love letters. He tells you how much he loves you and that you are the center of his universe. You both make excuses. And you take him back hoping he really means it this time. What Can You Do If You Are Being Abused? If you are in an abusive relationship seek help and get out. Talk to someone who can help a counselor, a teacher, your family, a minister or a trusted friend. There is a listing of helpful numbers in the resource section of this book that can help you figure out your options. There are people who want to help you. You do not have to go through this experience alone. Youve already taken the first step by reading this chapter. You can begin helping yourself by recognizing that you are lovable, capable and worthwhile and you have the power to heal from this experience. You may feel ashamed, afraid, alone or even depressed but you can move past this and come out stronger. What you need most is time and support to heal. You deserve to be safe. You deserve love that is not violent or abusive. You deserve to go to bed at night not feeling afraid. Here are some things that you can do to be safe. Take The Abuse Seriously Dating violence is serious business. Youve got to take your situation seriously if you want the abuse to stop. Insist that your boyfriend go for counseling to get the help he needs. If you are not ready then at least take a time out period from your relationship until he completes an anger management or counseling program. If he refuses then you must leave for good. Talk to Someone Tell someone what is happening. Talk to your family or a trained professional who can help you work through your feelings. You need support to figure out what to do. Talking to your friends can help you get your feelings out but you need the support of your family along with a professional to get through this. If you have been in an abusive relationship for a while, friends and family may already suspect what is going on. They want to help but they may not know how. Keep talking until you find someone who can help you feel safe. Develop A Safety Plan If you think that your boyfriend will become violent when you try to cool things off or leave him plan for your safety. Think about whatever you can do not to be alone with him or in the same vicinity. Arrange for friends and family to meet you after school or work. Walk to and from classes with other people. Let your family, roommates or answering machine screen your calls. If you are going out, make sure that someone knows where you are how to contact you, and what time you are coming back. This way if you are not back at that time you said you would be, someone can look for you or call the police. Plan for Your Safety Now I will have important numbers on me at all times. My local precinct # __________________ Counselors # _______________ Friends # ________________________ Domestic Violence Hotline # _________________________ I can tell ________________ and _________________ about my situation and ask them to call the police if they hear or see anything suspicious If I need a place to stay I can go to (list 3 places) _____________________ _________________________ ____________________________ I can avoid places that Ill see my ex such as __________________ __________________ ___________________ If I feel like going back to him I will call __________________ to talk things through and help me figure out what to do. Let the legal system help you Your boyfriends violence against you is a crime. You can go to the police, your principle, the counselor or the campus security to a file a complaint. You can also get an order of protection against him which is an order by the court that says your abuser has to stay away from you. If he violates the order then he can be arrested. Domestic violence is a serious matter and its also against the law. Join a Support Group Sometimes it helps to talk to other people who are going through the same situation as you. A support group is a safe place to share your experiences, listen to the experiences of others and figure out how to handle problems when they arise. You dont have to worry about feeling stupid or being judged because everyone in the group is going through a similar situation. To find a support group in your area speak to a counselor at school, a friend or call one of the hotlines listed in the resource section of this book and ask for a listing of places to go for help. Do positive things that boost your self-esteem Spend time with old friends and start making new ones. The simple task of keeping yourself busy will do wonders for your self-esteem. Join a community service project. You will be amazed at how much better youll feel when youre doing good deeds and helping others. Not to mention the great new friends you will make. Take a workshop. Read a good book. Listen to music no sad songs. Fix up your bedroom. Make a gift basket for a friend or family member who you havent seen for a while. The more you get out, the more youll realize how much fun life can be without him. Building a healthy relationship takes work and emotional maturity In a healthy relationship you are not afraid of your boyfriend. When one of you gets angry you find a healthy way to resolve the situation. You are able to spend time alone and do things together. You do not feel pressured to have sex. You feel appreciated and cared for.The bottom line is dangerous love can turn into deadly obsession. And there is no good reason to subject yourself to that. While it may be frightening to leave a violent relationship its far more dangerous to stay. You deserve to be treated with love and respect. You deserve to be safe. Its your life and you have the power to take control of it. Look how far youve come already. Romantic love can be exciting, passionate and sometimes addicting. But what you have to keep in mind is when he loves you to death he may send you to the grave to prove it. Copyright 2000 by Cassandra Mack Cassandra Mack, MSW is the CEO of Strategies for Empowered Living and the author of “Cool, Confident and Strong: 52 Power Moves for Girls.” She produces and hosts an internet talk radio show, The No More Drama Hour of Power, which can be heard by going to: http://www.caribworldradio.com To find out more about the author go to: http://www.strategiesforempoweredliving.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Cassandra_Mack http://EzineArticles.com/?Teen-Dating-Violence:-What-Every-Girl-Should-Know&id=441601 dallas merchant cash advance cash pointe car title loans maryland pay cash or take out loan san antonio online car loan application